So this is a bit of a personal one for me – probably the most personal blog I’ve ever written (and maybe will ever write).
For those of you who don’t know me personally or follow me on social media, I had breast augmentation surgery four months ago through a company called MYA. It’s been a whirlwind over the last few months, getting to grips with the initial pain you experience, handling people’s reactions be it good or bad, and not just physically but mentally getting to grips with the new ‘you’.
Perhaps the biggest adjustment of all though for me has been learning how to dress for my new body type. As a woman you learn how to do this as you go through that whole horrendous teenage phase. You learn what works and what doesn’t. Which styles suit tall girls and which suit petite frames, as well as whether your body is naturally curvy, pear-shaped, straight, etc. You figure it out. So what happens when you have to start from scratch all over again…?
Let’s break it down. I’m pretty tiny. I’m 5ft 2″ (think the Olsen twins height) and am a size 6/8 depending on the brand. Previously being pretty much flat chested up until the age of 24 I could get away with items like smock tops, strapless bras and bandeau bikinis, baggy shirts… they all worked for me. In fact I liked that because anything figure hugging only enhanced the tiny tic-tacs under my dress!
Fast-forward to present day. I had my operation on 14 February 2015 (yes, Valentines day I know) and sure without a doubt it was the best decision I’ve ever made, and the best money I’ve ever parted ways with. But those cute little smock tops in the wardrobe? Forget it!
It really affected me at first. I thought damn what am I going to wear now? It’s a steep learning curve when you’ve spent so many years buying a specific style because you know full well without even trying it on before you buy it that it just ‘works’. I found myself catapulted from a weeny 32A to a 32DD (although granted I was going for a C/D but everyone reacts differently to implants) and completely clueless walking down the aisles at H&M. I had to rethink.
I was fortunate to already have curves. Even though I was teeny on top, my waist was a whole 10 inches smaller than my hips (no waist trainer for this girl!) and so finally having a cup size to fill out that hourglass frame meant that figure hugging outfits were finally working for me. Let’s remember though that while a tight fitting dress that hugs your curves in the right places is great for lunch dates, dinner and dancing with the girls, it’s not work appropriate (if you’re in a 9-5 office job anyway).
Here’s a tip – cami tops are your new best friend. You can pair them with skirts or trousers, jeans or shorts and you’re not going to look top heavy nor are you going to come off as slutty. Dresses with a cinched waist are life savers too… like you have no idea! Sure I still hanker after a pretty smock top, and I think my former body misses them so I can never resist, providing that they don’t look too ridiculous or make me look square-shaped. Girls who have small waists and big boobs will know about this problem!
I do think that fake boobs get a bad wrap – sometimes people will be very quick to judge the chest before they judge the person (this has happened to me several times) which is wrong. I think part of this bad wrap as well is down to some girls taking it too far and going up to F cups when they’re a tiny size 6 and leaving it near impossible to find clothes which will suit this drastic body type, which will mean everything either looks too baggy or too tight and causing others to view them in a negative light.
What so many people don’t realise however is that there are so many girls who have them – and you may not even know about it. I have met so many women both young and old who have gone through this change and unless you knew them beforehand, you would never think they had had anything done and you wouldn’t judge them for it – so much of the judgement comes from those who are well aware that a woman has had implants. These women, just like you, are not bad women for taking this step. They are brave, they are beautiful, and they are happy – just like you are, and should not feel ashamed or judged.
The most important part of all this to take away from though, and what I have learned, is that every body shape is something to be admired. Everything has its perks and its downsides and everyone will always pray for the things they can’t have. Everyone has hang ups about their body in one way or another and do you know what? That’s fine. It proves your normal, and you’re not alone. Do I regret my choice to alter my body? No – I’m proud as punch of my results and it’s helped me to feel like the person I was always meant to be. But change means change, and you have to adapt. It’s not a decision to be taken lightly – I waited a whole 8 years before going for it as I wanted to make the decision as an adult and know that my decision was still firm after a number of years, not just a spur of the moment thing.
To all the women out there who are already comfortable as they are – good for you, you’re beautiful. To the women out there who want to take the leap to change something that’s brought them down? Again, good for you. It’s about time us women stood up and said we love who we are and where we’re heading.